2014-05-13   Ron W. Nikkel  (Prison Fellowship International)

 
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          Just Communication


Truthful words are not beautiful; beautiful words are not truthful.
Good words are not persuasive; persuasive words are not good.

                          (- attributed to Lao Tzu)
 

The judge asks a defendant,
“Do you swear to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth?”
“I do, so help me God” replies the defendant
with one hand on the Bible and the other held behind his back - fingers crossed.
 
Judge“How do you plead?” asks the judge
fully aware that the prisoner has been coached by lawyers
to tell the routine lie.
“Not guilty your honour” he responds
knowing that there is no honor in his words, and no respect for truth.
It’s just the way things are – the way the justice game is played on technicalities and strategies,
evidence and alibis, and  nuances of meaning.
 
Witnesses are called and cross-examined.
The prosecution seeks to bring out guilt,
and defense twists the words of witnesses and re-interprets all the evidence.
Judge and jury are expected to understand what’s true or not.
The courtroom is a conflicted muddled scene
the air heavy with unspoken anger, fear, hope, and cynicism.
In summation both prosecution and defense,
golden tongued lawyers (or liars some would say),
compel judge and jurors toward different versions of the truth.
Who’s to bless and who’s to blame? – it’s far too difficult to see the truth for words.
 
It’s been that way since time began,
since the serpent in a garden convinced Eve that God was actually wrong
and didn’t really mean what he had said.
And since Adam covered up the naked truth and offered God an alibi.
Years later in an ancient courtroom
a judge asked Jesus to give account –
“are you the king of the Jews?”
“What is it you have done?”
Jesus replied “My kingdom is not of this world.”
“So are you a king or not?” demanded Pilate.
“You tell me - because I am King,
I was born and entered the world to witness to the truth,
and everyone who cares for truth,
who has any feeling for the truth recognizes me.”
“So what is truth?” – sneered Pilate rhetorically.
He had been around long enough to not expect the truth from prisoners
- or from their accusers for that matter..
 
We have also become cynical and jaded
for we know far better than to take advertising or communication at face value.
We evade the truth, and the truth eludes us.
Sometimes the truth is difficult to speak at other times it’s difficult to swallow.
Truth isn’t always beautiful or soothing,
and sometimes isn’t even all that interesting.
But truth can hurt, so it isn’t what we like to say or hear
especially when it’s personal or close to home.
So we hide the truth in words and camouflage it in hidden meanings,
distracting and misleading insinuations,
by saying too much or much too little
– embellishing a little here and editing a little there.
Before we even know it,
we believe a lie and call it truth.
 
“He isn’t who he seems to be” we casually insinuate,
“it’s not that I think he’s an alcoholic or anything -  I’m just saying – he likes his beer.”
An impression is created, and something is communicated that isn’t just or kind.
We ‘mis-speak’ all the time –
saying “maybe” when really we mean “no,”
or saying “yes” just to hedge our bets unless a better offer comes our way;
and saying we need “some time to think about it”
 so as to avoid disappointing another person on the spot.
 
Everything that you and I say conveys something about the truth. 
The words we speak communicate a message that may be true or may be not.
We hunger for peace and justice in our lives -
while in our relationship and communication with those around us
we are manipulative,
hiding our real motives,
deflecting responsibility,
creating discord and distrust
communicating in ways that the truth becomes lost for words.

In the end we have skewed and skewered the truth -
undermining the very foundations of the justice and peace we really want.
 
Of course there is a place for tact in communicating the naked truth.
But the line between diplomacy and duplicity is too easily crossed
and too soon duplicity usurps the place of genuine diplomacy.
“Just” communication is always a reliable carrier not distorter of the truth
but both truth and justice are diminished every time
we are “just communicating” to serve or save ourselves at the expense of others -
no matter what spin we couch it in -
of subtlety or directness,
critique or compassion,
humor or respect.
Our private intentions and motivations tend to color how and what we communicate. 
Truth telling – communicating justly and truthfully is an everyday challenge for most of us. 
It should be a way of life.
 
 I’m just saying!

 
“Lord, we don’t even know where you are going!
How can we know the way?”
“I am the way, the truth, and the life!” 
Jesus answered. (John 14:5, 6)
Jesus told the people who had faith in him,
“If you keep on obeying what I have said . . .
You will know the truth
and the truth will set you free.  (John 8:31, 32)

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Ron Nikkel is President Emeritus of Prison Fellowship International after having led served as the Chief Executive for 32 years.  Ron has traveled extensively meeting with political leaders, criminal justice officials as well church and community leaders in more than 140 countries.  He holds the distinction of having been in more prisons in more countries than any other person.  Considered a leading voice for Justice that leads to restoration and reconciliation, Ron is in demand as a speaker on issues of justice and faith, justice and society.
 
BOOKS by Ron -  Radical Love in a Broken World  and Your Journey with Jesus are available in print and Kindle format through Amazon  and Christian Focus Publications  

ARTICLES - Ron's articles frequently appear in the Huffington Post and many can be found online at The Huffington Post

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